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Sex

Today's topic is going to be on sex. What I am about to speak on is sacredness and a bit on relationships. As well as sacred sex…I want to speak on sex wholistically and not be as maybe what we are used to others being and that's just crass for ass for no good reason at all. This is about getting our lives in order for ourselves, our family and even the community at large. I am concerned with the overwhelming belief that its all about self when in my eyes its not just about you. Its never been just about you. You are a part of the whole. I am also not very happy with things being brought out as mere distractions from the topics at hand. I have been in a few conversations and discussions and even just read discussions and have seen some things that to me is just a smokescreen of distraction….anyway. lets get focused and stay focused. Respect and peace.

This past wk the idea of the garden has come to mind. Not a vegetable garden but a flower garden. I made the statement that I was thinking if a man knew how to tend a garden then he shld probably know how to 'tend' a 'garden'. Now I have let my scholarship go down a bit and haven't been able to research like I wld normally like to (idk….call it laziness and yes, I admit that I have gotten a bit lazy….lol) any way. I started out in the church and we were taught that you can only have sex with your spouse. If you go outside of that then you are in gross sin. So there you hve it folks, all of the guilt walking around is courtesy of your lovely church establishment. I had a personal relationship with the church so I can speak what I know versus any other religious establishment. I for one strived for 8 yrs (2 four yr increments at a time) of celibacy. I didn't really know what to do with the energy. Everytime I slipped and indulged I fell into immediate depression and guilt and had to do like bible verses as affirmations….you knw, 'there is therefore now no condemnation to them that are in Christ jesus'….all the while the other scriptures wld be staring me in the face (subconsciously) with all the finger pointing….i was a mess like the others that we've met along our way.

So I left the church. And literally had to spiritually detox…lol I must say that I do not regret my decision. I do not delight in guilt. That shit was horrible. I've learned to be personally responsible instead of blaming someone else for what I allowed. And I am still learning how to be an effective co-creator of my destinations in life.

I read sacred woman. In you chapter about sacred unions, I really did like it. however, with me coming out of the church I had my full churchlike radar on….lol I was always looking to see what was to like it so that I cld run the other direction…I am an intimate person and so I enjoyed her chapter on sacred unions because it bespeaks to me intimacy with self and then the joining of me with another in sacredness and glory to the god/goddess w/in us. I am sure that I will do quite a few show to really get this all out because there is sooooo much to share and I only have this one hr for now. As I continued to work on me and my diet and love myself to health and all, I began to  seek ways physically that goes beyond even the elementary of just…sex…I enjoy the friction. But I also enjoy the joining. Because we know there is a joining, right. So that's one reason why I've always been pretty picky about things. I don't just jump on any dick. However it may seem. As I continued to grow as a person I've given things even more thought because I have learned more about energy. Awesome stuff this and we are….so I purchased a book called the healing love through the tao-cultivating female sexual energy by mantak chia. I really do enjoy the bk. Since I've been actively meditating this has been wonderful with some exercises you can use to direct your innergy (chi, life-force…etc) in this bk there are positions and such and breathing excercises that I will have to share another time. So as I've gone further I have been looking into sexual magic. I really don't have a bk perse….i have just been attentive to others that I've heard on blogtalk and such and they have been beneficial to me. Like I get all excited and such and want to try stuff out immediately….lol only thing is if your partner is now interested that can cause some frustration since its better to do it with someone instead of just alone. You can do it alone-do it away! However the knowing the fact that this cosmos is sooo orgasmic and how things manifest with the male/female principle…..mmmm mmm mmm….loveliness! so do according and consciously. Intention and imagination is the most important thing when doing….majick…please by all means do not get tripped up on technicalities. If you don't have that crystal, flower, oil, or colored candle; that shld never stop you. All with all things be sure to do things for the highest good for you and all. All that silly evil shit will trip your ass up in the worse way in the end. Its time to grow up. I honor those that have come before me here in the incarnations however I am aware that they all didn't do good and that we do according to our growth. So…there is sooo much to cover in this topic and I am seeing that in this overview I am going long on just the prelims…lol.so I will do the due diligence to share more in the Sundays to come!

In the book, sexual secrets-the a alchemy of exstasy by nik douglas and penny slinger they have like soooo much stuff in here historical and the like is a good read and practice. Even in the mantak chia bk, he has positions that aids in organ stimulation and healing. They share this graphically in both bks. Lovely stuff. I shared with some of my friends that kama sutra is not just some positions to do alone. Its to be coupled with tantra. Sex is to heal and create. So keep that in mind. Remember that. If you are sexing, you are creating something. There is something on your minds even its just bliss…….